July is a month of celebration, and barbecues are a common way to enjoy the summer festivities. However, when you have a loved one in recovery from substance use disorder, barbecues can present unique challenges for some families and friends. It’s important to approach these gatherings with positivity, support, and the language of SMART Recovery Family and Friends. In this blog post, we will explore how to navigate barbecues while celebrating independence, focusing on ourselves and supporting our loved ones in their recovery journey. Can this really be a thing, Cassandra? I am asked a lot. Yes it can be.
Embrace a Supportive Mindset:
Approach barbecues with a supportive mindset, focusing on celebrating your loved one’s progress and independence. Recognize the strength and courage it takes for them to navigate social situations while maintaining their sobriety. Your positive attitude will create a supportive environment for everyone involved.
Communicate Openly:
Prior to the barbecue (not at the barbecue), have an open and honest conversation with your loved one. Discuss their comfort level and any concerns they may have. Encourage them to express their needs and boundaries, and assure them that their well-being is a priority. This open communication fosters trust and understanding. What this might look like, your loved might might have to leave the BBQ early because as the event goes on, some people might accidentally encourage your loved one to engage in their drug of choice or behavior of choice.
Plan Sober-Friendly Activities:
Include sober-friendly activities in the barbecue plans to ensure everyone feels included and engaged. Set up games, such as corn hole, horseshoes, or bocce ball that don’t revolve around alcohol. Encourage conversations and connections that focus on shared interests and positive experiences. How this might look: if you never tried the game, try now.
Provide Non-Alcoholic Beverage Options:
Offer a variety of non-alcoholic beverage options to create an inclusive atmosphere. Prepare refreshing mock tails, infused water, flavored seltzer waters or specialty sodas, add lemon and lime. Why not make Shirley Temples? Having a range of appealing choices will help your loved one feel supported and prevent them from feeling left out. And believe it or not, that will also feel good to you too.
Educate and Inform:
Take the opportunity to educate other attendees if it comes up from others about substance use disorder and the importance of supporting your loved one’s recovery. Share information about SMART Recovery Family and Friends Program and the language used within the program. Encourage empathy, understanding, and a non-judgmental attitude among guests. DO NOT ANSWER ANY questions that you do not want to. Take a deep breath and say I am not having that conversation now.
Encourage Supportive Conversations:
Create an environment where supportive conversations can take place. Encourage guests to engage in positive and uplifting discussions, focusing on shared interests, hobbies, and future plans. This helps shift the focus away from substances and reinforces the importance of healthy connections.
Practice Self-Care:
As a supporter, it’s crucial to prioritize your own self-care during barbecues. Take breaks when needed, engage in activities that bring you joy, and connect with supportive friends or family members. By taking care of yourself, you can better support your loved one and maintain a positive mindset. Maybe chose a person that you can talk to if needed at the BBQ. Text or call this person before the BBQ to let them know you might lean on them when feeling stressed.
Celebrate Milestones:
Use the barbecue as an opportunity to celebrate milestones and achievements in your loved one’s recovery journey. Acknowledge their progress and express pride in their commitment to a healthier lifestyle. This celebration reinforces their independence and motivates them to continue their recovery efforts. YOU know your Loved One best. This will not work for everyone. I would not like that if that was done to or for me but others would welcome that. Do what works for your family member or friend.
Barbecues can be enjoyable and supportive events for loved ones in recovery from substance use disorder. By embracing a supportive mindset, communicating openly, planning sober-friendly activities, providing non-alcoholic beverage options, educating others, encouraging supportive conversations, practicing self-care, and celebrating milestones, you can create an upbeat and empowering atmosphere. Remember, your support and positivity play a vital role in your loved one’s ongoing recovery journey. DO not underestimate this.
If you have any further questions or need additional guidance, feel free to reach out to me. I’m here to support you every step of the way.
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Wishing you well always..
Peace, Love, & Tapping,
Cassandra Toppi
