Hello ALL!! I wish Everyone a Warm and Healthy New Year with lots and lots of strength. For some of us we are not happy about the New Year arriving. For some we are happy saying we have a fresh start. Asking ourselves, is our situation going to get better or improve at all. Hoping and wishing the New Year doesn’t repeat the things we did not like from the year before whether Addiction is present or not.
Here is what I am thinking for this Blog Post. Our words! I would like to start the New Year with choosing to focus on the words we are saying to ourselves instead of a New Years Resolution. My suggestion for you is try switching out some words. Which words, a lot of words actually. I will start with a few basic ones. For example instead of saying, “Always” switch out with the word “Often”. Instead of saying, “I Am a Failure” say, “I Didn’t Succeed At”. Here is one of my favorites! In stead of saying, “I feel Depressed” exchange with “I feel Sad”. Give this word exchange idea a try until February 1 and see how you feel. Does it seem to be making a difference? Yes, no or maybe so?! I have a thought you can have Resolutions too if you wish! Why?! Because there is not just one way to do something! You can try both if you so choose (:
The words you say to yourself hold immense power over your perception of reality and the situations you face in life. Often, our internal dialogue shapes our experiences, influencing how we respond to challenges and opportunities. When we engage in positive self-talk, we cultivate resilience and optimism, empowering ourselves to tackle obstacles with a constructive mindset. With the natural consequence of being able to be more solution based in a more positive thought provoking way! Natural consequences are not always “bad” or “negative”. Natural consequences can be “good” too.
On the other hand, negative self-talk can create a cycle of self-doubt, fear and anxiety, clouding our judgment and diminishing our confidence. It can also mess with our out look and over all feelings a great deal. Recognizing this impact can be the first step toward harnessing the power of our inner voice to foster a more positive self-image, mindset and environment. I am not talking about just this over all thing of like denying our feelings, no. We acknowledge the feelings and thoughts we are having. We honor them, after all they are our feelings. I am asking you to choose not to dwell on them for hours or days in a doom or gloom way. Yes this can be hard. I only ask you try.
As we navigate through various life situations, the narratives we construct around our experiences play a crucial role in determining our emotional responses. For instance, reframing a setback as a learning opportunity rather than a failure can significantly alter our approach to future challenges. This shift in perspective not only enhances our ability to cope with adversity but also reinforces our belief in our capabilities. It’s essential to be mindful, yes coming off of Autopilot with the language we use with ourselves, as it can either uplift or undermine our sense of self-worth and motivation in life.
The words we say to ourselves can influence our relationships and interactions with others in all area’s of our lives. A positive self-belief often leads to healthier connections, as we project confidence and greater openness. On the other hand, some-times a negative internal narrative can lead to defensiveness or withdrawal, creating barriers to meaningful connections even with those closest to us and we love. By consciously choosing to speak kindly and supportively to ourselves about our situations, we not only improve our own mental well-being but also set a tone for how we relate to those around us. Sometimes when we are choosing kind words for ourselves we will be more inclined to say nice words about others or use kind words to describe others and or their situations. That can really be a game changer in life.
In conclusion, the words you say to yourself are not just idle thoughts; they are powerful affirmations that shape your reality. By fostering a positive internal dialogue, you can transform your perception of life’s situations, your perceptions of your Loved Ones, your home conditions, enhance your emotional resilience, and cultivate healthier relationships and the list goes on. The journey toward self-empowerment or easier said, “a happier life” can begin with the act of choosing your words wisely, reminding yourself of your strengths, and embracing a narrative that propels you forward rather than holding you back.
Here is a free copy of one of the Worksheets from the SMART Recovery Website I relay heavily on. It is called the Exchange Vocabulary and I like it a lot. It is listed under the Section “Inner Dialogue”. Feel free to download the Exchange Vocabulary here
Exchange Vocabulary – there are many word exchanges out there, this one I found to be easy to use and quick to read when giving this word exchange idea a try.
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Peace, Love, & Tapping,
Cassandra Toppi
